Friday, April 30, 2010
# Accepting the detractor's help to help him have a shot at greatness.
Its easier to be good than to accept goodness of others, especially of those whom for some reason we don't like or disagree with. It needs immense moral courage to accept help from the enemy because by doing so, we expose ourselves to a serious danger of comprosing our long-cherished values like self-respect, dignity, pride and other fancy crutches that we use to promote our "identity". Only a saint can rise to the stature where she can accept offers of help from those who hate her, and she can do so without having her self esteem compromised in any way. That is because she has not made her identity a slave to vanity, nor has she allowed her vision to be so blurred as to lose the distinction between true moral dignity and false ego. What she is achieving by accepting the help from the enmy is not so much a personal gain -- she is a saint and therefore not after personal gain anyway ; what she is truly expressing is the courage to help her detractor have a shot at greatness. She is actually allowing her detractor to rise in his own esteem. In doing so, she is sacrificing her temprorary sense of what others call "self-esteem" but what she views merely as "vanity". She would not allow that vanity to come in the way of her providing her opponent a platform to exercise and exhibit his gretness , his generosity. She is in fact making it possible for the good in him to come forth, even at the expense of her own perceived dignity. Quite often our ability to accept the enemy's grace is a more true measure of the magnitude of our character than our courage to fight him. It is easy to fight the enemy -- everybody would do it -- because in doing so one has got a whole universe of jsutifications . And also a chance to show off one"bravery" or the "courage to be martyr." Said Guru Nanak, " A true martyr is one who has the dcourage to lvie as he was dead." Only saints have that courage. Only Guru Gobind Singh can sing songs of lvoe after an embattled life in which he sacrificed his father and his four sons, apart from making numerous other sacrifices. Only Guru Gobind Singh could extend a hand of friendship to his tormetors without any fears of being dubbed a coward. He knew he was soldier and did not ahve to prove anything to anyone: that he ahd done already throughout his life. But when the call came to demoinstrate spiritual bravery to pursue peace, he ws not found wanting. That is why we do not call him just a soldier but a "saint-soldier". We know it is tough to appear to be a lover of peace when the world expects you to indulge in bloodshed. Soldiering for peace and for love calls for a much greater and much nobler courage, demonstrated only by thsoe whose for whom courage was not a sentiment to impress or boast but a daring to pursue truth.