Need to transcend reciprocity

I am not talking about a stage below love requited but above and beyond it. On the desire to have our love requited, who can disagree with you -- even saints want their God to respond. But comes a stage when you transcend that. But obviously you transcend something only after going it. Only those who experienced the pangs of love unrequited can understand what it means to transcend that pain.The need to transcend the need for reciprocity in love can be understood only by those who can experience the intensity of loving in the first place.